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What It Means If You Hate-Follow Your Ex on Social Media


Hey, sometimes blocking them is harder than breaking up.

We’ve all been there: You go through a breakup and somehow you just never got around to unfollowing or unfriending your ex.
That, or you totally want to keep tabs on them (hey, no judgment).
Sometimes, checking in on your ex on social media can make you feel pretty damn good about where you are in life, especially when they look (a) miserable or (b) less attractive than they used to. If they start posting about how much it sucks to be single, then jackpot, baby!

It sounds awful, but clinical psychologist Suzana E. Flores, Psy.D., author of Facehooked: How Facebook Affects Our Emotions, Relationships, and Lives, says most of us do it.
But reveling in someone else’s misfortune is probably not the best use of our time or emotional energy.

First of all, it provides a sense of validation, says Flores. If things didn’t end on a good note, it can give us a feeling that our ex is unhappy because of our breakup—even if that has nothing to do with the status quo.

Hate-following an ex doesn’t exactly say great things about us, either, saysFran Walfish, Psy.D., a relationship psychotherapist in Beverly Hills. “It feeds that little bit of narcissism in all of us—the wish and hope that 'I am the best and only one for him, and without me he is diminished or can't survive,'” she says.
If the relationship ended because you both realized it wasn’t working out, following your ex on social media is no biggie, says Flores.

“Remaining fixated on an ex’s suffering will inevitably only prolong your own suffering,” says Flores. “It’s best to try to focus on yourself and your own happiness.”
So should you immediately ditch your ex on social media after a breakup? It depends on where you’re coming from.

“If the relationship was abusive or toxic and maintaining any level of connection with this person will cause you harm, I recommend blocking them—that’s why social media implemented this feature,” says Flores. “If, however, the relationship ended in a way that honors mutual respect, understanding, and friendship, then following your ex is not only appropriate but also sends the message that you can maintain a friendship with your ex post break-up.”
Bottom line: It’s better to block them. It’s way less entertaining, but you’ll be better off because of it. 
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